By Bonnie Moss 2005-09 (c)
The shadow is a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality,
for no one can become conscious of the shadow without considerable moral effort.
To become conscious of it involves recognizing the dark aspect of the personality
as present and real. This act is the essential condition for self-knowledge, and
it therefore, as a rule meet with considerable resistance.These shadows are repressed
elements of the personality which we choose not to be identified with.
Shadows lurk in the deep recesses of the psyche.It is buried in the heart, in the
mind; it is part of us.It follows us, it frightens us, and they come to us in
different ways, but always, fits our beliefs or lack therof and our lifestyle. The
shadow is not a mere concept or a matter of perception.It is very real!
Just as there is light, there is also darkness.Is it possible to deny the shadow
element? It is usually the worst side of the person. The courageous person may
have a cowardly shadow. The kind, gentle and caring person may have a cruel side
hiding behind all that softness.
Even among the most benevolent, the most respected personalities and leaders in
every field of endeavor, part of their shadow element peeks through their eloquence
and their elegance.
Do they really know themselves, or having denied their shadow element, they find
their views, their words and their actions in conflict. This is not intentional- the internal
shadow conflicts they fail to deal with come to surface at the worst moment.
Is it possible to ignore or avoid the shadow? Some call it demons that stick around
every dark corner, every perilous turn, in every struggle and conflict. When we are at
the lowest point in our lives, shadows haunt us.
It is that part of ourselves that we leave in the closet as we face our public and put
our best foot forward. Hide them, deny them, suppress them, would they just vanish?
These actions may end up attracting these shadows into our lives in other ways.
Do shadows impact on our lives? Do they mean anything? Shadows come in many forms.
They can come as temptations, obsessions, addictions,co-dependency and other forms of
indulgence.Shadows appear in the darkness cloaked in fear; shake us at our core.
Shadows also show as projections. It can be a dislike of certain traits in people,
unjustified and unexplainable. We don't like what we see,perhaps it mirrors part of us
that we choose to ignore or may not even be aware of.
Are you comfortable with your friends? If not,ask yourself, why do you hang out with
them? Do you judge them harshly? If so, why do you share your precious time with them?
Do you tend to make a compromise that you can not meet? What about the times you get
angry at the slightest provocation at times by the same person.
There are times we look for our shadows in the face of other people. We even attract
them into our lives. Buried deep, these shadows may drive us to places we dare not go.
Pundits would say it is not wise to deny the shadow element. They believe the only way
is to confront it, deal with it and work through the conflicts it creates.
Each one has their personal demons to deal with and to face, otherwise, it follows us
in less conscious ways. There are lessons from the shadow element. To become aware
of it, we need to go deeper into ourselves,be all that we can be, assuredly. We can
take the good. Work with the bad, see the light, face the darkness without fear.
Go deep within; let the fears and insecurities buried deep within surface. Confront
the anger seething under the skin.
We are not perfect. No matter how many dark clouds hover above us, no matter how long
the dark night is, light will surely come. These dark nights offer a chance to enrich
and nourish our spirit, our soul and our lives. It helps us to align ourselves with
our highest purpose.
By striving for greater balance,
endurance and perspective,
we generate more personal
power and strength.
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