How Long Does One Grieve
by Bonnie Moss (c) 2010 -03
Everyone responds and handles grief in different ways. There are
recommended ways to deal with grieving, but these are just guidelines.
No matter how strong one is, the grief can hurt deeply.It can not be
drowned in the bottle, lost in celebration or in the company of other
loved ones. When the departed has been so much a part of oneís life,
the pain goes much deeper.
Two years after the death of my husband, I still feel moments of
intense grief,pain and sorrow. Tears still flow down my cheeks now
and then, when memories of the life we shared together come flooding
to my mind. These are cherished moments. I know that I will never hear
his voice again, nor feel his embrace. I listen to our favourite music
alone. Sometimes I hear him humming to the tune.
How long can this go on? People will say move on. Each day is a step
to moving on. Some days are slower than others.I follow all the steps
to keep my sanity.Keep a routine, exercise, get out of the house, meet
with friends, stay active and healthy, throw a party and keep up with
your hobbies, etc. etc.
Coming home to silence does not bother me anymore. There is no Eric to
welcome me home, to ask how things went.If there is a problem around the
house, I take care of it. There is no one to consult. I am now used to
eating my meals alone. I got very sick last November, yes, I missed Eric
terribly. Remembering the little things he did when for me I get sick made
me feel worst. He sure took good care of me.
I am a night owl. Sometimes, I dread nightfall. Evenings can be awfully long.
I know I now walk alone. Itís a mighty long and lonely walk.
A Final Goodbye